Self-esteem is the phrase we use to describe the opinion we have of ourselves. It refers to how we think, the type of person we are, our abilities and what we expect for the future.

When our self-esteem is healthy, we tend to feel good about ourselves and have a positive outlook on life in general. A high self-esteem gives us the courage and strength to deal with the ups and downs in life – without them having a long-term impact on our health and well-being.

When our self-esteem is low, our thoughts and feelings about ourselves are generally negative. We are more likely to focus on our weaknesses and be overly critical of the things we do and mistakes we’ve made. Low self-esteem means our entire outlook on life is affected. We are also less able to cope with everyday challenges.

Self-esteem and self-confidence

The terms ‘self-esteem’ and ‘self-confidence’ are often used interchangeably when we describe how we feel about ourselves. However, although self-confidence is related to self-esteem, they are two different concepts. Unlike self-esteem, self-confidence is the level of trust we have in our abilities, our sense of judgement and personal qualities.

Levels of self-confidence can vary depending on a situation. For example, one may be self-confident when it comes to doing mathematical equations, but not so much when it comes to reading and writing. Self-esteem on the other hand is how we feel about ourselves overall – no matter what the circumstance. Our self-esteem is shaped by our experiences and situations that have happened in the past. These determine how we feel about ourselves in the present.

It is generally believed that issues with self-esteem stem from childhood. Our history and relationships with those around us – including our parents, friends and siblings – shape the opinion we have ourselves. We receive a combination of positive and negative messages as we grow up, but for some reason it tends to be the negative ones that stick. Feelings of not being good enough can continue into adulthood.

Low self-esteem affects us all in different ways. There are however common signs to look out for. If a person feels like they are inadequate or unworthy, their behaviour will reflect this. They act in a way that confirms they aren’t able to do things or aren’t very good.

Hypnosis for self-esteem can help you develop respect and appreciation for yourself. This will completely change how you interact with others. It will enable you to take control of your insecurities and not let them affect your relationships. With healthy self-esteem you can trust more easily and fully embrace the love, support and affirmation a relationship can bring.